Friday, October 26, 2007

3)If a woman wants to be dominated in bed, does this have anything to do with her feminism? To what extent should fantasies extend to your political and social beliefs?

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think the whole idea of a sexual fantasy is to let yourself extend your bounds and perhaps that means doing something you would normally be down with...ie being dominated. To me, this seems to be one of the core values of feminism. I think that whether you want to be dominated or do the dominating, fulfilling your fantasy sexually is empowering, and therefor to woman it could be considered a feminist act. Fantasy fulfillment is wonderful and i don't believe that it should ever be viewed as defining one's political or social beliefs. One can define their political and social beliefs in a political or social arena. I personally think the bedroom is neither of these.

daphne said...

I agree. A woman who wants to be dominated in bed is getting exactly what wants, having someone listen to and help bring about intense pleasure to her and I don't think that this could be against feminist goals. All healthy BDSM relationships are full of discussion and mutual consent and a submissive person must have an incredible trust for her domme, which is not only really sexy but a deeply feminist relationship.